Opposites Attract

I have been thinking a lot about the concept that opposites attract. I feel like it’s so true! There is soo much beauty in the polarity between the feminine and masculine. I recently watched a documentary called The Business of Birth Control (it was soo good– I definitely recommend watching it!), which is kind of a different topic, but they shared an interesting study done on women who were on birth control and those who weren’t. Women who were not on birth control had an innate, intuitive sort of sixth sense that allowed them to smell the sweaty shirts of various men and be the most attracted and drawn to the man whose genes best complemented their own. This genetic complement was the most dissimilar and opposite of that of their own– bringing new light to the old adage that opposites attract.

In contrast, women who were shown these sweaty shirts but were currently on birth control lacked this sense almost entirely. Instead of picking out their genetic complement, they were most drawn to their most genetically similar– almost like choosing a brother or family member. And they found that when these women would later get off of birth control, they 5would almost immediately break up or have serious problems in their relationship because they would feel too similar. How crazy is that??

There is honestly so much to unpack when looking at this story such as the audacity of pharmaceutical companies dulling a woman’s intuition and ability to know what is right for them, but also the truth and power in the fact that opposites attract. We live in a world where men are belittled and beaten down for even thinking about being masculine. They are pegged as the wicked masterminds behind the historical oppression of women, and while that oppression is very real, I don’t believe that true, divine masculinity was ever the cause. True masculinity adores the feminine and seeks to provide and serve and admire, not suppress or destroy.

Women are attracted to men who have a purpose and direction in life and who have the confidence to lead them there, together. It’s when there is a lack of leadership or direction that women start to feel stressed or burdened rather than safe and taken care of. There seems to be a cyclical pattern where men seek to appease women and keep them comfortable at the expense of themselves and their own needs and desires, leading to a lack of leadership in the relationship which the women will begin to assume out of necessity. This results in a man who is unsatisfied and disconnected from his masculinity because he is not leading nor confident and a woman who is stressed and burdened by the leadership role seemingly forced upon them, resulting in them being disconnected from their femininity. Does that make sense?

Anyways haha I digress. I’ve been learning more about the divine masculine and feminine and feel like there aren’t enough people talking about it?? I am interested to hear if any of you find this topic as intriguing as I do– let me know in the comments!

xoxo

Madeline